AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here’s the answer…

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because:

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO..

:)

LOVE this statement so much

no body perfect. not even us.

Untuk isteri renungkanlah...

Pernikahan atau perkahwinan membuka tabir rahsia..

Suami yang menikahi kamu tidaklah semulia Muhammad saw...

Tidaklah setaqwa Ibrahim..Pun tidak setabah Ayyub 

atau pun Segagah Musa.. apalagi setampan Yusuf

Justeru suamimu hanyalah lelaki akhir zaman yang Punya Cita cita 

membangun keturunan yang soleh...

Pernikahan atau perkahwinan mengajar kita kewajiban bersama

Suami menjadi pelindung, kamu penghuninya 

Suami adalah nahkoda kapal, kamu pengemudinya

Suami bagaikan pelakon yang nakal kamu adalah penonton kenakalannya.

Saat suami menjadi raja kamu nikmati anggur singgahsananya

Seketika suami menjadi bisa kamulah penawar ubatnya 

Seandainya suami bengis lagi lancang, sabarlah memperingatkannya..

Pernikahan ataupun perkahwinan mengajarkan kita perlunya iman dan taqwa. 

Untuk belajar meniti sabar dan redha Allah swt. Kerana memiliki suami yang tak segagah mana.

Justeru kamu akan tersentak dari alpa.Kamu bukanlah Khadijah yang begitu sempurna di

 dalam menjaga Pun bukanlah Hajar yang begitu setia dalam sengsara.

Cuma wanita akhir zaman yang berusaha menjadi solehah.. amin... 

Justeru itu wahai para suami dan isteri. Jangan menuntut terlalu tinggi seandainya diri sendiri jelas tidak berupaya.

Mengapa mendambakan isteri sehebat Khadijah 

andai diri tidak semulia Rasulullah.

Mengapa mengharapkan suami setampan Yusof 

seandainya kasih tak setulus Zulaikha.

Tidak perlu mencari isteri secantik Balqis andai diri tidak sehebat Sulaiman.

DAN Tidak perlu mencari suami seteguh Ibrahim andai diri tidak sekuat Hajar.

Untuk suami.. renungkanlah...

Pernikahan atau perkahwinan menyingkap tabir rahsia.

Isteri yang kamu nikahi tidaklah semulia Khadijah 

tidaklah setaqwa Aisyah pun tidak setabah Fatimah 

Justeru isterimu hanyalah wanita akhir zaman yang punya Cita-cita menjadi solehah... 

Pernikahan atau perkahwinan mengajar kita kewajiban bersama.

Isteri menjadi tanah, kamu langit penaungnya 

Isteri ladang tanaman, kamu pemagarnya 

Isteri kiasan ternakan, kamu gembalanya 

Isteri adalah murid, kamu mursyidnya 

Isteri bagaikan anak kecil kamu tempat bermanjanya 

Saat isteri menjadi madu kamu teguklah sepuasnya 

seketika isteri menjadi racun kamulah penawar bisanya seandainya 

isteri tulang yang bengkok berhatilah meluruskannya..

Pernikahan atau perkawinan menginsafkan kita perlunya iman dan taqwa.

Untuk belajar meniti sabar dan redha Allah swt. kerana memiliki isteri yang tak sehebat mana.

Justeru kamu akan tersentak dari alpa 

Kamu bukanlah Rasulullah saw.. 

Pun bukanlah Sayyidina Ali Karamallahhuwajhah 

Cuma suami akhir zaman yang berusaha menjadi soleh... amin...